Get to Know Meg Anderson

I have been married to my husband since 1998 and I thank God every day for bringing him into my life. Before you start gagging, let me tell you that my marriage has not always been the fun and loving marriage that it is today. In the first 2 years sharing our lives together, Rod and I did not honor each other. In fact, we spent a lot of time misunderstanding each other, fighting, struggling and living very lonely. It felt like we were two different ships passing in the hallway.

I was working, building my business as an event planner and didn’t have a lot of time for anyone or anything else in my life, and unfortunately, this included Rod. I had the audacity to tell Rod that if he made me pick between my business and him, I was going to have to pick my business. Oh, I told him that I didn’t want him to break up with me, but that my focus needed to be on building this business, because it was for the good of our family. Looking back, I am not sure why but he said “I love you,” and having part of you is better than having none of you.” So, we entered marriage.

While we were engaged, we agreed—because that is what I wanted—to have a child when I turned 30. It made perfect since to me in my controlling and ambitious mind that we would have a 2000 baby. This was about 2 years after we were married. So I got pregnant on our one year anniversary in Hawaii. It was the most stressful trip ever. Rod felt like he didn’t have a vote and I felt that we agreed to this before we got married. So we were at an impasse and I won. That was what was important in life, right? So I got pregnant and we lived happily ever after, right? No, not actually, happy was not our experience. I was working 60 hours a week all the way through my pregnancy, and was expanding my business. I got my doctor to induce me on a Friday so that I would only have to take the weekend off. Ugh, well friends, God had different plan’s for us.

Our sweet boy, Payton Earl Anderson was born in June of 2000. Things were perfect; he was born in the middle of the year, so that if I was early or late, he would be a 2000 baby. However, upon birth Payton was rushed down to Children’s hospital in Seattle Washington, where we spend the next week. During the next 10 months, our boy had 5 surgeries, and in a unrelated issue, he had 6 ear infections, before we got tubes put in his ears. Needless to say, things were a little stressful in our house. So you would think I might put my business aside and focus on my family right? Not! That is not what I did at all. I didn’t know what to do, so I just started to work harder. I thought I was “Wonder Woman” and believed I could do everything on my own. I didn’t have time for a nervous breakdown that I so richly deserved. I had staff meetings in the cafeteria at Children’s hospital and kept business going, just as if nothing ever happened. But something did happen, God was trying to get my attention and accomplish something in my life, but I didn’t want to give up the plastic pearls that I was holding on to for the real pearls He was trying to give me.

Back to my marriage. I had a lot on my plate so I felt that Rod should buck up and know that I didn’t have anything left for him. He was a big boy; and he could take care of himself, right? WRONG!

For a very small period of time my husband cracked and behaved in a way that was not honoring to our marriage. This happened at about the time of 9-11; and as we witnessed the twin towers collapse, we were living our own ground zero. When we look back at that time in our lives, we believe that our deepest trials were the best things that have ever happened to us. I love this quote by Ruffin Bridgeforth, “I think there is something about suffering that we don’t understand, and when we get to the other side, we may wish we had done more of it.” God pulled us through all of our trials with a definite purpose.

We had a lot of counsel helping us figure out this thing called, “MARRIAGE”. We talked to pastors, counselors, and friends who supported us staying together, and our family. I turned my company over to my management staff, which was perfectly able to manage the company. We spent the next 6 months putting our marriage back together. We prayed hard, talked for hours on end, went to counseling appointments, read books, focused on having fun together and mended our marriage.

We prayed for God to make this experience that would glorify Him and he has answered that prayer. He is allowing me to give other couples information tools that enable them to work through their problems and develop marriages that honor God. We are not interested in mechanical marriages, but in vibrant, caring, intimate, and loving relationships that demonstrate to others that you possess something that they want, and that starts with God.

I can’t tell you how amazing it is to wake up with a man that you love unconditionally. Even though it was hard work if I had to do it all over again, however painful, I would do it, to get the marriage I have now.

So, my friends, Blessings to you in whatever stage you are in with your marriage. With some hard work you CAN have the marriage you have dreamed about.

Meg Anderson
Coaching Your Destiny
Certified Co-Active Coach